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Saas-Bahu sagas and never-ending TV soaps that deal with women and their woes test the patience of TV watchers who crave for variety. Here comes a show which, for the first time, will highlight men’s trauma, albeit in a humorous way. ‘Sumit Sambhal Lega’, a TV show which is an Indian adaptation of US TV series ‘Everybody Loves Raymond’, will showcase ‘mard ka dard’! The story revolves round the Saas Bahu theme, where Sumit (Namit Das) always gets stuck between his mom and wife. Whiny and flippant, Sumit does not take many things seriously, making jokes in nearly every situation, no matter how troubling or problematic. So does Sumit strike a chord with men TV watchers who now have a reason to cheer about as their problems and plight are taking centrestage?
Baladev Prasad says that playing the role of a devoted son and a loving husband at the same time is not difficult. But when it comes to being a son and a husband at the same time, there can be difficulties. There is no doubt that a man knows best how to deal with both mother and wife in conflicting situations. Therefore, it is important for a man to don the role of peacemaker.
Baladev stressed on the conversation part: “The first thing is communication; proper communication eases interpersonal relationships and prevents loud fights. Convey to your mother that your wife is capable of taking appropriate decisions regarding dressing up, socialising, spending money, taking care of children and parents, and should be left to judge for herself. Similarly, communicate to your wife about the importance of spending quality time with mother by explaining to her, for example, the sacrifices mother has made to educate her children. And whenever I find myself in any complex situation I try to listen to the problems of both wife and mother individually because I think the main cause for tension is lack of communication.”
Debanand Dwibedi says, “Mother is the woman who has given you everything and she has every right to place her views before you. After all, she is the one who reared you and cared for you when you needed it most. She deserves respect from you and your wife. Listen to wife: your wife is the second most important woman in your life. She marries you, moves to your house and helps you fight every battle of life. She, too, deserves to be heard and have her opinions respected. Any kind of untoward incidents ought to be avoided; consider every situation and try to talk to both parties. Having respect for both is essential.”
“Every man comes across situations in his life when he gets stuck between mother and wife. When I find myself in such a situation I try to find out the reasons behind the discord or difference of opinion. And believe it or not communication is the best tool to solve problems and it is also important how you convey your message to both of them,” said Abhijit Shah.
“There are mothers who still prefer to be dictators leaving the daughter-in-law with no option but to follow orders. Now it is our duty to encourage our mothers and wives to take turns in managing the household. This will give both of them the freedom to do what they like, reducing friction,” Shah added.
Sushant Vengurlekar who has just completed one year of his marriage and feels fortunate that he has not been in any unsavoury situation so far shares his views: “Whenever you find that you are getting stuck between your wife and mother the first thing you should do, apart from having a conversation, is tell both parties that nobody is to blame: do not ever blame your wife in front of your mother or vice versa. Morally speaking, your wife is younger to your mother and a little bit of admonishing should not cause discomfort to her. However, the situation of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a bit sensitive. Last but not the least, no matter what the situation, do not lend an ear to any kind of complain from either your mother or your wife. Believe it or not, it is going to leave you disturbed, confused and you will find yourself caught in a tug-of-war,” quipped Sushant.
