When you are a couple, there are bound to be misunderstandings and differences. But, you need to take the appropriate steps to clear it up and move on to a happier time. Serious misunderstandings, when swept under the carpet can magnify within no time, and have the tendency to creep up in most ugly conversations.
Read on to find out how to resolve one.
Check your presumptions
Look back and you will know yourself that most misunderstandings that you have gone through have involved some kinds of presumptions.
This assumption many have been made either by you or the other person. Sit back, take a deep breath and truthfully analyse. If you have presumed anything, and admit it. Similarly, if you are upset about something he assumed which is untrue, analyse it and instead of holding a grudge, talk to him about it. Apologise, if you have gone wrong. It’s as simple as that!
Think of his/her strengths
You know him/her well enough to know how he/she functions and what his/her strengths and weaknesses are. Play up that strengths, and if the misunderstanding has occurred due to an inherent weakness, work around it instead of complaining.
You approach him
There’s no place for pampering an ego if your intention is to clear a misunderstanding. Don’t think “Why should I let go?” or “Why should I always be the one to talk to him first?”
Thoughts like these delay the process of communication to everyone’s detriment. So just approach him to talk it out. Ensure you communicate calmly, and instead of distributing blame, communicate how you felt. It will work much better.
Don’t involve others
Many people have the habit of involving third parties—be it trusted friends or family members. It’s best to avoid it, since you are elevating the blame game and the feeling of taking sides when you get in a third person. Also, it is a rather private matter, between you and your SO, which doesn’t need to be publicised among loved one.
